I’m going to be serious today, because I just watched a very serious film yesterday. It was called “Inception”.
It’s about a man called Cobb (Leonardo DiCaprio) who is able to enter dreams and steal their ideas (extraction) (or at least get to know their subconscious better). He is called upon to do the opposite of this: plant an idea in someone’s head and this is called “inception”.
The guy whose head is being invaded is a guy who has issues with his dad and Cobb’s mission is to manipulate this in order to split up the company so that the person who commissioned this adventure can benefit.
However, as it turns out, Cobb has his own issues which complicate the whole mission: he is not over his wife’s death and his own separation from his kids. The problem is that he “incepted” an idea in his wife’s head that the dream was actually real which destabilised her to take her own life in order to return to the dream, which she thought was real. Thus, much guilt.
Cobb likes to spend his time going back to these memories in the dream state. It takes the form of an elevator where the basement is the event of her suicide. He really enjoys going back to all these memories. Of course, this can only be unhealthy.
So when he is on his dream missions, it is not surprising that his dead wife intrudes on the dream in a way that compromises the mission. Even images of his children drift in and out and break his focus.
The movie was very deep and made me think about our own layers of the unconscious. This film has about four layers of dreams.
And it also made me think about how dangerous our own issues are if we don’t deal with them. They intrude on our life with devastating consequences.
One issue that came up for me was the image of a baby which keeps popping up in a daydream form all the time. Initially I looked at it as a positive: visualization of a desired goal.
On Friday night we had a function at the school and the new teacher has a five month old baby which she was holding in her arms. I can’t tell you how this image imprinted on me and how much my own longings stirred something deep within.
But now after watching this movie I am having a critical look at this daydream and how it could possibly be more harmful than good. I mean, if the baby is never coming, how is this image going to help my healing? And even if it is, how is hanging onto the image helping? Like Cobb, I have to let go of this image, in much the same way that he has to let go of his wife.
Somewhere along the line this idea of having a baby took hold of me (inception), and I need to release its grip over my life in order to truly live and be the real me.
Distruption of life? Yes, because I am looking at this new teacher as the baby bearer in all jealousy, instead of the normal nice person that she is. Do you see how this simple hanging on to the image is preventing a better relationship?
True healing comes from letting go and fortunately EFT has given us a tool in order to do this. That’s just like Ariadne in the movie who makes the dream mazes. She is like the one in the Greek myth that got Theseus out of the labyrinth.
“Even though I am holding on to this image of a baby in my arms, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though it is all I can do not to rip that baby out of her arms, I deeply and completely love and accept this need. Even though I seem to be obsessed with fertility and having a baby, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Top of the head: Holding onto this image
Top of the eyebrow: It feels safe to do that
Side of eye: I hate all these people who have babies
Under eye: It is just not fair
Under nose: When will it be my turn?
Chin: If I feverishly gather as much info as I can, maybe it will help
Collarbone: If I diet like crazy maybe it will help
Under arm: If I go into debt maybe it will help
Under breast: If I allow this thing to take over my life, maybe I’ll get a baby
“Even though I’m allowing this image and obsession to rule me, I’m choosing to switch my focus. Even though I’ve been on this path for so long, and I don’t know another way, I’m choosing to shift my attention to my husband. I’m choosing to love my dogs. I’m choosing to find other interests. I’m choosing to give myself a break from this.”
Top of head: I’m switching my attention
Top of eyebrow: I’m giving my reproductive organs a break
Side of the eye: I’m going to eat some junk food
Under eye: I’m going to give my bank account a break
Under nose: I’m having a break to clear my head
Chin: I need to think clearly again
Collarbone: To let go of the baby
Under arm: To leave it in peace
Under breast: To work on my own healing now